I am approaching my one-year anniversary this weekend and closing out a pretty busy 2007 Friends’ Weddings Nationwide Tour, so I have been thinking a lot about weddings and marriage. Tonight in the Chicago airport, I remembered one of the many things I love about being married.

Through various complications involving work trips that weren’t, it so happened that my husband and I were on different flights from Chicago. So, we each developed our own elaborate plan of plane, train and bus rides intended so we could meet eachother and his visiting aunt in downtown DC later tonight. This, of course, would rely heavily on everything going according to schedule, which it rarely seems to do with airlines and public transportation. As I was about to board my flight, there was an announcement about Ned’s flight, saying that it was overbooked. We also realized he would be one of the last people to board, making it less likely that he would be able to bring his carry-on bag aboard, which would then make it impossible for him to catch the bus that was scheduled to depart 15 minutes after he was scheduled to land.

None of this was particularly troubling — in fact, all quite normal in the course of airline travel. But what was abnormal was that it was one of a very few times in the past two years that we have traveled separately. Life adventures, including those in airports, have been so much easier with a partner.

Would he get booted from the flight? Would he make the bus? Would we meet his visiting aunt?

I sat on my plane, sans husband, wondering these things. My brain likes to jump to the worst case scenario, so my natural conclusion, of course, was to assume that Ned would be stuck in Midway. And I thought: this surely must be love. I would rather be stuck in an airport with you, then on the way home by myself.

(end note: we both made it to DC and to a very tasty dessert with a very lovely aunt. ned got on the flight with his suitcase and missed the “overly optimistic” bus but got on the “if all goes according to plan” bus.)